Khorixas community consultative meeting was yesterday and it was an amazing and humbling experience.
27-28 April 2016 Aviator Hotel Johannesburg
The ARASA Annual Partnership Forum (APF) took place in Johannesburg .This was particularly a very exciting and unique opportunity as it was the First Partnership Forum WTTN would be participating in.Day one started off with registration and all partner Organisations were welcomed by the Executive Director of ARASA Michaela Clayton,Michaela expressed how ARASA was started with less then 10 organisations.the Idea Originated in Geneva in a Bar ,Programatic and Financial updates where shared and session 2 dealt with case studies from Value add of the ToT –2014 Trainer’s Trainer of the Year Facilitator: Jacob Segale (ARASA)
Zimbabwe HIV, TB and Human Stanley Mulenga (Christian AID Ministries)
SAfAIDS Rights Capacity Strengthening and Advocacy Programmes
Small Grants: KELIN: Winner of the 2015 ARASA HIV, TB and Human Rights Award
Session 3: Advocacy priorities identified during the 2015 APF
What have we been up to? Facilitator: Nelago Amadhila (ARASA)
Creating an enabling legal and policy environment by Nthabiseng Mokoena (ARASA)
Global Fund Africa Regional Grant on HIV “Removing Legal Barriers” HIV Justice Worldwide by Edwin Bernard (HIV Justice Network)
South Africa, 27 June 2016
African Bodies Breaking Grounds Building Bridges was the theme for the Pan African IlGA Regional LGBTI Conference that took place in Johannesburg from 13-18 May 2016. This conference meant that emerging trans focused organizations had an opportunity to network with bigger organizations to share experiences, get advice and guidance.
Small organizations engaged with possible donors and funders to create future partnerships that could benefit the transgender community of Namibia. The Trans pre-conference was amazing and hands on and we got to see that regardless of where in Africa we come from, we share similar challenges. We face issues of stigma, discrimination and violence.
Access to services health care facilities and the protection from the law is lacking. Generally, there is a lack of information on Trans terminologies and what they mean, there is a lack of trans visibility in commonalities were part of the issues that came up. It came to light that as much as we might find ourselves in different parts of Africa, gender identity issues still need a lot of advocacy, sensitization and awareness-raising. This became evident when many transgender activists expressed views on how they have to advocate for inclusion and space we are supposed to be part of like LGBTI conferences.
The main conference was also informative with panel discussions that motivated and enlightened us on how we can lobby for equality and equity for the communities we serve. There were panel discussions that also shared best practices and guidelines to ensure our advocacy strategies are in line with our country contexts and constitutions. Furthermore, how we can use regional and international instruments and mechanism to aid our struggle and trans advocacy.
This conference brought together more than 35 countries and had more then 180 participants from across the globe.
The conference was a safe space where many Africans that are rejected, stigmatized and unacknowledged could express themselves fully without fear. The PAN AFRICAN ILGA REGIONAL LGBTI CONFERENCE was motivational. Yes, indeed, African bodies are breaking grounds and building bridges.
(I have been able to relate so much with Janet Mock from her first book redefining Realness, and her second book that i must still read. Her life journey takes me through so many similar situations , Challenges and emotions. a story of a black young Trans woman trying to make it in life by being herself and proving to the world that being trans doesn’t mean i am different and i am unable to do things “Normal”People do, As much as Transitioning In Namibia is expensive and very sensitive issue and i still need to go on my journey of transitioning i can relate so much to her. from the irrelevant term “passing “used by those who can perfectly fit in society without anyone realizing they are trans to those of us who cant “Pass”and as such go through all the stigma .discrimination and violence. Hence i agree that being pretty is a privilege ,Passing is a Privilege and that needs to be acknowledged. )Lets read more…below is her Story Janet Mock my Strength.
I knew very early on that I was not pretty. No one ever called me pretty. It was not the go-to adjective people used to describe me.
Throughout elementary and middle school, I was used to hearing other words: Smart. Studious. Well-spoken. Well-read. They became pillars of my self-confidence, enabling me to build myself up on what I contributed rather than what I looked like.
Yet I was enamored by the pretty girls in class, the popular ones who walked into the room and shifted the gaze of the majority without effort, the ones who won class elections, were crowned Miss and voted Most, and who seemed to collect all the trophies and Valentines. I was equally fascinated by the pretty girls and women who were lauded in my favorite films and TV series as well as the ones who took center stage on MTV.
Pretty girls are not identical, of course, since “pretty” is subjective and means different things for different groups of people. Still, there are shared, agreed-upon commonalities. “Pretty” is most often synonymous with being thin, white, able-bodied, and cis, and the closer you are to those ideals, the more often you will be labeled pretty — and benefit from that prettiness.
As a young trans girl, I wondered what it would be like to be seen not only as a girl but as a pretty girl. Like many teens, I struggled with my body and looks, but my despair was amplified by the expectations of cisnormativity and the gender binary as well as the impossibly high beauty standards that I, and my female peers, measured myself against.
This anguish began to subside as I embarked on my medical transition at 15 when how I saw myself inside began to slowly and steadily reveal itself on my outsides. I began to finally see myself. By 16, others saw my self-image as well, and I began to notice the way people treated me shifted. They no longer stared at my body in confusion. They no longer questioned my gender because I began to present more clearly as a girl — specifically, a cis girl. Suddenly, I was successful at “passing,” blending in with the pretty cis girls in class I had once watched in fascination.
I began living my teenage dream: I was seen and accepted as just another girl. With my gender nonconformity seemingly fading away, I began to attract the attention of 18-to-24-year-old cis guys who began stopping to inform me that I was pretty.
Suddenly, I was let in, and I did nothing to earn the attention my prettiness granted me. I soon saw that people stared and smiled, offered me seats on the bus and drinks in the club, complimented me on my appearance, and held doors open. This was partly how I experienced pretty privilege — the societal advantages, often unearned, that benefit people who are perceived as pretty or considered beautiful.
Pretty privilege can give way to more popularity, higher grades, more positive work reviews, and career advancement. People who are considered pretty are more likely to be hired, have higher salaries, and are less likely to be found guilty and are sentenced less harshly. Pretty people are perceived as smarter, healthier and more competent, and people treat pretty people better. Pretty privilege is also conditional and is not often extended to women who are trans, black and brown, disabled, older, and/or fat.
Being curvy but not plus-size, mixed but not all black, trans but cis-blending, and able-bodied gives me a different experience than many. I am a black and native Hawaiian trans woman (who is often perceived as cis) with brown skin, curly hair, an hourglass size-8 shape. I have symmetrical facial features; a smooth, even complexion; and a white, straight, wide smile. For me, pretty privilege operates in a myriad of ways depending on the spaces I enter, who is in that space, and whether people already know that I am trans.
I remember when I was a teenager and my classmates would praise me by saying, “You don’t even look like a boy anymore,” “You look so real,” or “I can’t even tell” — backhanded compliments that still follow me when someone hears my story. It communicates our culture’s misconception that equates cisness with attractiveness and equates one’s ability to be seen as cis with being seen as attractive — as real.
However, one’s ability to pass should not dictate their attractiveness. This widely held belief is part of the reason why trans actress Laverne Cox started the hashtag #TransIsBeautiful. A trans person can simultaneously not embody cisnormative beauty standards and still be seen as attractive or pretty, and a trans person can align with those cisnormative standards and not be seen as pretty.
Still, my appearance is a conundrum to many, even within my own communities. Trans women like myself, whose transness often goes unchecked, are conditionally granted access and navigate spaces more safely than trans women who do not pass as easily. Being able to blend in is a gateway to survival, but many trans women do not benefit from my passing privilege or my pretty privilege.
It is also important to acknowledge that there are repercussions, too, specifically in spaces of desire. Cis men have often claimed that they were “deceived” or “tricked” by a trans woman who was assumed to be cis and was thereby deserving of the violence she faced. This harmful yet all-too-pervasive belief has gone so far as to be used as defensive arguments in courts across the country, called the “trans panic defense.”
To thoroughly examine this concept, I must also discuss race, which further complicates our lived experiences. I am a mixed black woman who has benefitted from pretty privilege in black and people-of-color spaces (largely where I am not often read as trans) but has also experienced being invisible in predominantly white and mainstream spaces. It has been a common experience to either be completely overlooked in favor of white women who are considered the beauty standard, or to have white folks or nonblack POCs point me out as an “exception” with comments like “You are pretty for a black girl” or “You don’t look fully black.” The message: blackness does not equate to attractiveness, and therefore my mixed-ness puts me higher on the white cis beauty hierarchy than a black woman with parents who are both black.
We should recognize our positionality across all of our intersections and experiences. I am a black trans woman who is invited into spaces largely because of how I present, but for so long, I tried to evade the fact that people saw me as pretty or attractive. And I learned quickly to adapt and play the modesty game because to acknowledge that you are pretty is conceited, and to be conceited is to be unlikable.
Women have been trained to minimize their greatness in an effort to be more likable. We learn that when we are complimented, especially about our looks, we must dismiss the compliment, feign self-deprecation and modesty, undermine our looks and pretend we did absolutely nothing to contribute to them.
I learned to counter a compliment by highlighting a flaw, pointing out something I didn’t like about myself — perhaps a blemish on my forehead or the fact that my symmetry is contoured. But self-deprecation and dismissals will not save us from the fact that we exist in a lookist culture that equates a woman’s attractiveness to her worth. It’s problematic when a pretty person denies they’re pretty, and pretty people must take ownership of the fact that they get special treatment. We do ourselves a disservice by saying looks “don’t matter,” because looks do matter.
Here’s the math: If I did not look the way I do, then I would not be on TV or on two book covers. I would not have a beauty column or an Instagram with more than 100,000 followers. This does not mean that I have not put in work and effort and done my job well, but my beauty is not something that I earned. I did not work for it, yet it has opened doors for me, allowing me to be seen and heard. And for me to pretend that it does not exist denies the ways in which being perceived as pretty has contributed to my success and made the road a bit smoother.
This is not to say pretty people don’t have their own struggles, insecurities, and pressures: having one’s worthiness be defined by how good you look; questioning whether your promotion or invitation was earned based on merit or merely because of your looks; feeling an overwhelming pressure to maintain your attractiveness.
As someone deemed pretty, I have experienced people looking at me but not really listening. I have often gotten the sense that if I serve a look that I am often reduced as someone who cannot contribute anything beyond my beauty. I have been on job interviews and swiftly met with looks from interviewers that said, “A girl that pretty cannot be a hard worker,” despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
“I mean, being pretty helps…would you not say?” Oprah Winfrey asked me during my interview for Super Soul Sunday in 2015.
“Uh, yeah,” I answered nonchalantly.
“Thank you for saying that,” she said. “I hate it when pretty girls always say, ‘No, it really doesn’t make a difference. You should see my cellulite.’”
“Pretty privilege is real,” I stated.
“Pretty privilege is real, girl!” Oprah repeated as if she had just discovered a new A-Ha!, high-fiving me under her grand oak trees.
I’ve noticed that it’s more acceptable for pretty women to complain about objectification, the male gaze, and the ways in which beauty can undermine intelligence and contribution, but rarely do pretty women complain about — or, rather, acknowledge — the access their prettiness extends to them.
It’s unbecoming to acknowledge your attractiveness, so it creates a silence around pretty privilege that only elevates the competitiveness and divisiveness between women who are told we must compare, compete, and measure up in a lookist culture.
People with privilege do not want to discuss their privilege — whether it’s privilege derived from whiteness, straightness, cisness. But we must acknowledge our privilege if we are to dismantle these systems and hierarchies. We have to be honest, and I’ll start with myself: I am pretty and I benefit from my looks.
Letter presented to the Chairperson of the Gender standing committee on behalf of Transgender community By Madame Jholerina Timbo and reads as stated below.
10 July 2017
Honorable Chair Ida Hofmann of the Gender committee, Honorable Deputy Chair Mr Kasuta, honorable Committee Members present of the Gender Standing Committee
To talk about Transgender people, we need to look at What is our understanding of Sexuality and Gender. We as the Transgender community don’t want special rights, all we ask for is Inclusion in national Policies and Prevention, treatment, care and support mechanisms and the Legal Framework of Namibia.
We face so much stigma and discrimination in our own country from our own people. Many leaders like to blame the west for everything that they don’t want to acknowledge, i was born and raised in Omaruru and assigned as male at birth. I was given typical male jobs around the house, but It never resonated with me.
When and how was I influenced by the west. The Namibian Constitution Article Ten talks about protection against discrimination and on what bases and it never talks about Gender Identity. We need to come together and dialogue to be able to understand each other. ignoring us as Namibians who are transgender will not change the challenges and situations in the country.
Article 7 of the Namibian Constitution talks about protection of liberty. Article 8 talks about respect for Human Dignity. But going to accesses services at public health care services we face tremendous stigma and discrimination. when we go to police station for help we get stigmatization and discrimination again. This issues have psychological impact on the transgender community and a lot of us end up abusing Alcohol and resorting to drug abuse because ,our own constituent isn’t clear on Gender identity issues and we never get help when we need it .Namibian law has no explicit provision protecting LGBT individuals from discrimination in accessing healthcare, but this protection is embodied in the principles of equality, dignity before the law and the commitment to improve public health in the Namibian Constitution. Barriers can take the form of outright prejudice and discrimination, such as when people are given sub-standard care or are turned away from a hospital or local clinic because of their sexual orientation or gender identity – or more subtle obstacles, such as when health professionals fail to take the time to understand the health needs of their LGBT patients.2 In Southern Africa, discrimination in health-care settings has been noted as both direct (refusal to see patients, derogatory labelling) and indirect (lack of sensitivity, lack of knowledge).3
Another obstacle to accessing healthcare services is the fear that confidentiality may be violated, meaning that the patient’s sexual orientation or gender identity may be revealed to a hostile public.4 Breaches of confidentiality may lead to stigma and violent reprisals, so a lack of confidence in doctor- patient confidentiality may discourage LGBT individuals from attempting to access healthcare.5
Yet another hurdle to accessing healthcare is the continued criminalization of consensual sodomy in many countries, including Namibia’s change is not about sexual orientation. Transgender and intersex persons may be heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual – just like anyone else.
In Namibia, legal rules issued under the laws which govern doctors and other members of the medical profession generally make it misconduct to share confidential information about a patient unless – the patient has given consent; the information is required to be divulged in court on the instructions of the presiding officer; or there is some law requiring that the information be disclosed.
Another issue of concern is whether medical aid schemes will cover the costs of gender re- assignment surgery or medical interventions relevant to intersexuality. One private medical aid fund consulted telephonically reported that it excludes coverage for gender re-assignment and for medical interventions pertaining to an intersex condition. PSEMAS (Public Service Employees Medical Aid Scheme) also excludes these interventions from coverage. This is an area where education and advocacy will be needed to push for change.
Religious Leaders and Cultural Leaders should be part and parcel of this Dialogues as they also incite Stigma and Discrimination. Many of us were brought up in Christian homes and still believe in God and would like to excessive the right to practice any religion we want to practice. Transgender people have been part of society in Namibia since before Independence, Because of the stigma and discrimination.
We humbly request this honored Body to take into account that we are Human before we are anything else, we are Born by Namibian people in Namibia and we need equal treatment when we seek Health care services, employment and the protection of our dignity with our Identity. We request this honored body to Table motions that are inclusive of Key Populations, their expressions, gender identities and sexual Orientations. There were others before us, we are here and there will be others after us, Ignoring and not addressing our needs and issues will not make it disappear but this is how Revolutions begins as people get tired of oppression to express their gender identities and suppression breeds hate and trust issues of systems that are meant to protect as they are exclusive.
Thank you for your time, we are most humbled.
Jholerina B Timbo
Wings To Transcend Namibia
Google Gives me the above explanation.But let me Tell you.
Trans What? some would say
i only know Moffies they would utter
Terminologies never heard before like Trans by many
feeling uncomfortable when children,mothers ,fathers ,neighbours scall out Moffie
burning with anger and Hatred for those who dare utter the M word.
The moment you respond in any negative way they enjoy it
they laugh and continue Moffie Moffie Moffie with children running after me me Chanting Moffie ,Moffie ,Moffie
I hate you world ,who come up with the word any way
who thought up such a word without consulting us who we are?
The Anger In me is great I hate you cruel world.how cruel can you be?
i dont even know what it means,All that i need to know is that
when i am called a Moffie i Get Enraged that i feel the blood turns cold
Knots form in my stomach.ironic isnt it that Humanity can be so cruel.
Heartless,emotionless ,my only response is to ignore and cry alone in my room.
what have i done to deserve this unkind Treatment
i am just living my life,trying to fit in,
but the world never had a place for me to feel save
to feel love and appriciated
No i have never Ever related to the Word Moffie.its like calling a black person Kaffer.
You get 15 minutes of enjoyment and i am left with a life time scar and that memory will remain with me forever,
you torment me and think it is over when i leave,no i get Nightmares still.
The world is a battle ground dont show your fears or emotions.
Its A cruel ,cruel.careless and Emotionless world out There.
Herewith The Board and Management Team Of WTTN would like to extend a Formal apology to our Members,Partners and Donors.
We were for the longest Time unable to access our Page,It was under Construction and now that is out of the Way we will Continue to update all our partners,members and Donors on the activities we have been and are up to.
Our Sincere and Humble apologies from our Side.
Madame Jholerina Timbo
Kunene region -Khorixas The Transgender and Gender Non confirming community met at from the 3-5 August 2016 to discuss and talk about Issues,Challenges and needs of the Transgender Community in the Region and in Khorixas.
Representatives of 13 Transgender people attended the Session :
The participants consisted of technical assistance from the Founder and Acting Director Clemence Miyaniwe of Rural Out Org who helped and assisted in sending and forwarding out the announcements of the session to the community as well as co-Facilitating the session.
below are some of the challenges identified by the community.
*There is stigma and discrimination within the LGBTI movement because of how we behave,
*There is self Confidence and self worth issues within the Trans Movement
*Challenges of being raped and going to the police and police ask but you are a men how can you be raped and its because you are like that that you got raped.
*When we are arrested for what ever the reason might be the police statements like they are gays and they like sex so put them there,where hardcore criminals are.
*LGBT recruits in the police force are treated tougher and many quit from the trainings
*We dont get any stigma and discrimination in health-care system we don’t have problems.
*We are called Ostrich kidneys,refuse pipe, and moffie which are all derogatory terms
*Our Partners also face stigma and discrimination hence our relationships are in secret.
*Police are asking why are you like that when we go to them for assistance.
*Society in Khorixas is very respectful because we behave as mature people and take part in community projects.
*We dont have any information on transitioning and weather we can transition in Namibia and where this services are available.
*We also sometimes suffer from physical abuse in our relationships and because we are in secret relationships we dont look for help.
The UN and the Office of the Ombudsman have spear headed the Dialogue to ensure that human rights are respected regardless of ones sexual orientation and Gender identity. That people from LGBTIQ community are human first and foremost and as such should be accorded the same Respect for Human dignity as per the supreme law of this country.speaking to Denver Kisting the Ombudsman Advocate John Walters said and I quote “I have been appointed to protect people’s human rights, despite peoples choices,if people of the same sex would like to get married ,it is thier choice, whether the country, community ,churches and government acknowledge that .we will have to discuss the challenges ,abortion and sex Work too are about choices. The UN report called on the Namibian government to abolish the common-law crime of sodomy .
This indeed are great times that we live in and it is our time as LGBTIQ organisations and community to engage and ensure that our voices are heard .
Wings To Transcends first community consultative meeting in Walvisbay .Transgender community and partner organizations MPower,VHT and SFH.discussing pertinent issues effecting Trans gender people in the region, issues of access to Gender affirming health care,Change of gender marker and identity documents as well the need for out- reach and education were highlighted as well as access of HRT and support systems in Namibia. We as wings to transcend Namibia are proud to welcome Lee Strauss as the Erongo Regional focal person who will liaise with the office and mobilize the Region. We are Proud to have been able to host this meeting and would the other foundation for their commitment and support.